It’s handy that we have a 29th of February this year. The saying goes that it is the only day of the year when women are allowed to propose to their men – instead of the “old-fashioned” way. Let’s take that one even further and decide that 29th of February this year, you MUST propose to yourself!!
Could that be seen as selfish? As weird? Being selfish has SUCH a bad wrap. It’s probably one of the worst things especially women would like to be called. Check out the definition: “concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure, “I joined them for selfish reasons”.
Can we introduce a distinction here though? Take out a word, and it becomes a good thing: “concerned chiefly with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare”. When we care about ourselves and know what makes us happy – then it is easier to help others do the same. The stronger you are, the more you follow your truth, the more you can inspire others to do the same.
You can’t make other people happy by wanting them to, it doesn’t work. Have tried. No good.
For good results, combine selfishness with compromise. I like my curly hair. I like my name. Are there loads of things about me I don’t like? Yes, but I focus on the ones I DO like. And so can you. That’s a good compromise. But if you don’t know your starting point – something you like or want – how can you create a rewarding compromise?
We don’t need to love all we see. We can work on version 2.0 as we go along. Do you want a helping hand to create the next version of YOU? Then book a session with me to get you kick-started.
And tomorrow, 29th of Feb 2016, ask yourself in the mirror: Will you marry me? I really, really want to spend the rest of my life with you!
Tomorrow and onwards, say YES to YOU.