Did you ever wonder if you say NO enough? In order to say YES to yourself more?
We’re not talking about mindless no, no, no, no to everything, and we’re not on about NO!!!! with anger, stubbornness or provocation. It’s the calm no. The considered no. The grounded no, because you know who you are and what’s important to you. And often “the request” doesn’t need to be done, or someone else could do it instead of you.
So I invite you to ponder: how come we so often have YES as our default response? What if we turned it upside down and had a calm NO as default, unless certain criteria (yours! not others’) were met? So that you know when and why you say yes.
In the Joy Hearts workshops we see how it starts with knowing who you are. What’s important to YOU. That’s such a good starting point for making wise decisions. Based on this, you decide how you want to spend your waking hours (we all have the same number of hours in a day; Richard Branson and you both have 24 hrs, I’m just saying?!). SO many things can be done differently, smarter, quicker, not needing to be done as often, have others do them or help – the list goes on.
With this new-found focus and hours to spend, you can start saying YES. To those people and things that matter to you. That give value to you and those around you and move you all forward in a way that’s valuable and sustainable.
How to actually say NO is another exercise on its own, we’ll do it in a couple of weeks at the Women, Wine and Wellness event, how exciting to have 60 women look into each other’s eyes, saying no calmly and standing by it.
I’m happy to help YOU speed up this journey as well. On how to say NO, to say YES to you. Enjoy your Sunday.